5 August 2011:
Was I not tactful enough?
Today an incident occurred.It was during recess. On my way out of the canteen, I saw S. The left side of her face looked like there were a few pimples. And I remarked "Hey, I think you have a pimple outbreak ..."
And Cold War has started, since then. Technically, I don't know if it should be termed as Cold War, since I am nowhere near ignoring S.
The remark was in no way trying to insult S. It was half-joking, half-concerned. I understand that girls are very sensitive about their appearance, so that probably seemed like a very serious insult.
To me: I told S what I really thought. Now, looking back, I do realise that I could have been more tactful. I could have hinted to her, or maybe simply ignored.
What I find slightly irritating was the reaction that followed. After the incident, and till I left school, I saw S at least twice. The idea was the same: call out and say hello to everyone around me, purposely looking at the sky or somewhere else just to pretend my non-existence.
It's not that I am so hurt by this whole treatment. I just find it very non-constructive. I sincerely believe that the ideal situation would be to resolve this minor misunderstanding, and maybe have me apologise. But after seeing S's behaviour, I am hesitant to take any action. After all, I am rather sure that my actions would be ignored.
I would understand if S purposely ignored me. But how would you account for the deliberate responsiveness towards others around me? A method of spiting me. And what good would that do? Perhaps it is not evident, but that just spoils relations even further.
I admit that my very first (or rather, only) sentence in this whole episode has been rather inappropriate and insensitive. However, I do think that doing such things and whining to mutual friends about this intentionally when I am around is very ... childish.
Nevertheless, I do hope for a resolution. I do not wish to have such a strained relation with someone whom I have had frequent contact with over the past year. It is very tiring, boring, and childish.